COUNSELLING
THERapy
Personal GROWTH
Living more like you, begins with understanding the story you’ve been living.
Most people who contact me aren’t looking for someone to tell them who they are. They’re trying to understand why life has started to feel different, why old ways of coping no longer work, or why they feel disconnected from the person they know they could be. Together we’ll make sense of your story, so you can begin living more like you again.
Most people who contact me have never had therapy before — that’s completely okay
Hi, I’m Rupert
Therapy for people who look like they’re coping — but inside feel exhausted, stuck, or overwhelmed.
Over the years I’ve noticed that people rarely come to therapy because there is something “wrong” with them. More often, they’ve spent a long time adapting – to relationships, expectations, responsibilities or experience that have gradually shaped how they see themselves. What once helped them cope can eventually become the very thing that leaves them feeling stuck.
To other people, life may look fairly steady – work, relationships, family, responsibilities — but underneath, you might be overthinking, exhausted, finding it hard to switch off, or quietly wondering why you don’t feel like yourself anymore.
I work with people who appear to be coping, but underneath are thinking constantly, questioning themselves, struggling to switch off, or finding that relationships and everyday pressures affect them more than they used to. Sometimes there isn’t one obvious problem – just a growing sense that something needs to change.
The ways we learn to cope rarely come from nowhere. They often develop over time – through relationships, experiences, expectations or simply learning what was needed of us. What once helped you manage life can eventually become the very thing that leaves you feeling stuck.
Therapy gives us the space to understand what’s happening beneath the surface – not simply to make difficult feelings disappear, but to understand what they might be telling you and what you want to do differently.
What working together feels like:
I work in a calm, down to earth and collaborative way. There isn’t a formula you’re expected to follow or a version of yourself I think you should become. We;ll explore what’s happening at a pace that feels right, making space for curiosity, understanding and sometimes a different way of seeing something that has felt stuck for a long time.
I’ll listen carefully and at times i may challenge something, notice a pattern, or another way to look at an experience. Not because i have the answer, but because seeing something from a different angle can help you recognise an answer that was already there.
What it can feel like to work together:
“Rupert has a way of making you feel completely heard and understood, which allowed me to open up in ways I didn’t expect. His direct approach is incredibly insightful, and it helped me reflect on things I hadn’t considered before. I felt safe and supported every step of the way.” – AD
“I’ve had a few therapists over the years, but none made me feel as comfortable and challenged in such a positive way as Rupert did. He really listens, then asks the right questions to help me dig deeper.” – SW
What You Can Expect from me
I don’t believe therapy needs to feel clinical or overly formal. I’m a real person in the room with you and the relationship we build matters.
My role isn’t to analyse you from a distance or to tell you how to live your life. I’ll bring curiosity, honesty and experience to our conversations, and I’ll take the time to understand the world as you experience it.
There will be times when i sit with you in something difficult and times when i may gently challenge what I’m hearing. This is done to support you to understand yourself.
A little about me
My route into therapy hasn’t entirely been conventional. Before becoming a therapist i spent more than two decades working in the emergency services. An environment where staying composed, carrying responsibility and getting on with things can become second nature.
That experience has shaped the way I work today. I understand that someone can appear capable and in control while privately carrying far more than other people realise.
Why I became a therapist
I came to therapy myself before i ever sat in the therapist chair. Experiencing what it was like to have somewhere to talk openly, without needing to perform or have everything figured out, changed my understanding of what a conversation can make possible.
It eventually led me towards training as a therapist and creating the kind of space i had come to value myself – somewhere thoughtful, honest and genuinely human.
The way I work
My foundation is person centred therapy, but I don’t believe one way of working fits everybody. I draw from different therapeutic ideals where they’re useful. While keeping our relationship and your individual experience at the centre of the work.
You don’t need to understand therapy models or arrive knowing exactly what you want to work on. We can start with what’s happening for you now and make sense of the rest together.